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Kavita Daswani

Joy is often presented online as being tied to status, material possessions and personal achievement.
Scroll through your Instagram feed and you will see flawlessly curated snapshots of “happiness”: gleaming watches, fast cars, designer handbags.
American positive psychologist Stephanie Harrison sees this as an outdated vision of happiness. She wrote New Happy: Getting Happiness Right in a World That’s Got It Wrong to challenge the way we think about self-fulfillment.
The book, which became an international bestseller, draws on hundreds of studies to offer a life-changing guide to finding happiness.

It has sparked a movement dedicated to redefining what it truly means to be happy; the book’s dedicated Instagram page, instagram.com/newhappyco, has 955,000 followers.
Harrison’s San Francisco-based company The New Happy produces podcasts, newsletters and other resources designed to change the way we view happiness.
She has been invited to speak to international business leaders, including at Google, about how traditional notions of happiness have been leading us in the wrong direction.
At the heart of Harrison’s philosophy is a personal realisation.
I feel incredibly fortunate to have found a path to happiness … and my hope is to share that with others
Stephanie Harrison
Growing up in a loving family in the suburbs, she was influenced by what she calls “The Old Happy” – the relentless pursuit of perfection.
“In my early twenties, I had achieved many of the things I thought would make me happy, yet I experienced profound misery,” she recalls.
“Lying on my bedroom floor, sobbing, I found myself wondering for the first time, ‘What if everything I’ve been told about happiness is wrong?’”
She spent years believing that happiness was something to be earned through success, only to find herself feeling disconnected and unfulfilled.
She found out the University of Pennsylvania offered a master’s degree in positive psychology, the scientific study of well-being and the strengths that enable people and organisations to flourish.

The field is based on the belief that people want to lead meaningful and fulfilling lives, to cultivate what is best within themselves and to enhance their experiences of love, work and play.
She enrolled in the degree, and after completing it joined the programme as an instructor.
Through her studies, she realised society’s definition of happiness, which is perpetuated by the media and our education and family systems, was fundamentally flawed.
So what does happiness actually look like?
According to Harrison, it is not about accumulating wealth or accolades. Instead, what she calls “The New Happy” centres on deep connections with others, service to one’s community and prioritising relationships over personal gain.
As you go about your day, brighten someone else’s whether through a smile, a compliment or a helping hand
Stephanie Harrison
“I used to believe that if I could just achieve some external goal, then I’d be happy,” she says.
“Now I know that real happiness is the state of being connected – to myself, to others, or to the world around me. That means it’s accessible in so many moments, even the difficult ones.”
Harrison also challenges the idea that happiness is about focusing solely on oneself.
“The fastest route to happiness is helping other people be happy,” she says. “Being of service offers us everything we truly long for: connection, love, purpose, meaning and joy.”
Not everyone has the luxury of contemplating happiness from a position of financial stability, and Harrison acknowledges this reality.
“We live in a world where basic needs aren’t met for so many people. It’s incredibly difficult to think about helping others when you’re just trying to survive.”
The New Happy is not about grand gestures or life-altering changes, but about making small, meaningful shifts in daily life.

Harrison shares insights and practical strategies that can help promote real happiness:

Practise self-compassion: “In difficult moments, pause and say to yourself, ‘It’s OK that I feel this way,’ or ‘I’m struggling, and that’s to be expected.’ Refrain from beating yourself up.”


Seek small ways to serve others: “As you go about your day, brighten someone else’s, whether through a smile, a compliment or a helping hand.”


Put relationships first: “Studies show that strong relationships are the single most important factor for well-being. Even a quick text or check-in call with a loved one can sustain connection.”


Cultivate a hopeful outlook: “Cynicism is easy, but it harms our well-being. Look for moments of kindness in the world and use them as proof that people are fundamentally good.”


Clarify your values: The New Happy platform offers a Values Wheel tool (thenewhappy.com/values-wheel) to use to help people identify what matters most to them. This makes it easier to change how they live to align with their values, on a daily basis and as they pursue long-term goals.


Finding happiness in the everyday
Looking back, Harrison says her personal struggles led her to her big shift in perspective.
“Shortly after that difficult moment in my twenties, I began to rediscover the joy I had felt as a young child,” she says.
“It has been a companion even in hard times. I feel incredibly fortunate to have found a path to happiness that is sustainable and persistent, and my hope is to share that with others.”
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